Sam is a 19yr old single mom of 4 beautiful kids. This is her story of how she became a single mom to 4. Also, how she raises a daughter with autism.
Sam's Story
Haley:
I met my (at the time) boyfriend when I was a freshmen in High school. We started having sex WAY too early in our relationship. He was already my world though. A few months into our relationship I ended up getting pregnant. First person I told was my Twin Maci who you will hear about more. My parents were always on the road for work so it was pretty much me and Maci alone in the house. I emailed both my Mom and Dad telling them that me and my boyfriend Jon were pregnant. I was only 14 years old. Apparently they never got the email. 4 months later they came home and here I was sticking out. They asked how I got so fat and I said what do you mean fat? It's my baby bump.They were surprised and I told them to look in there email and there was proof I told them. My Mom scheduled an apt and got me checked out. They didn't really care I was pregnant. She was born a happy healthy baby. 7lbs 5 oz, 21inches long on Dec 9, 2006. I was 15. I didn't know ANYTHING about babies. When she was 6 months she got a shot. This shot was the cause of her Autism. She is now 4.
Parker & Bella:
Me and Jon are still together at this time. We are back t having sex and he is living at my house. One night we were again careless. 6 weeks later I found out that I'm pregnant. I was 15. Jon freaked out a little bit but he promised to stay by my side. 3 days later he proposed to me. The days after we told our parents we were pregnant again. Both our parents flipped then my mom noticed my pretty pretty ring. We then announced we were engaged. The 4 calmed down a bit. about a weeks later I had a sonogram and found out it was twins! First thing we said was Autistic & Twins, oh fuck! They were born Mar 12. I was 16, having a C-Section and getting my tubes tied. Parker was 6lbs 2 oz and 19 inches. Bella (not Isabella, just Bella) was 6lbs 3 oz and 17 inches. They are now 3.
Jacqilin:
Me and Jon were busy planning our wedding for a week after my 18th birthday, while working and raising 3 kids. Maci found a great guy who she is still with to this day. When she was 17 she ended up getting pregnant to this guy. She was going to abort the baby. I begged her not to saying that I would take care of the baby. She agreed. She had Jacqi on March 7. Jacqilin was 7 and a half lbs and 23 inches. We were 18. Jacqi is 1 now.
Jon & I:
Me and Jon ended up getting married on Apr 12. He started to get abusive. One day it got so bad that after a week or 2 I called the cops. We got a divorce and he has life in prison. Being a single Mom of 4 is extremely rough.
My Life Now:
I'm 19 with 4 kids. Maci and D'shawn often see Jaqi. I'm going to Minnesota State University Moorhead for Sociology. I often go skiing, shopping, go to Vallyfair, the Zoo, playing tennis and snowboarding with the kids or friends.
What is like taking care of a kid with autism?
It is definitely hard. I have 5 people that come to my house and work with her. When Jon and I bought our house we redid it so that she couldn't climb. She has a play room to herself that is safe for her. She goes to speech therapy because she is non-verbal. My family is on a high fat diet to help her seziurs.
How did the shot cause her autism?
It was a mercury shot. I don't know the science behind it but the kids will never get all there shots now.
Do you regret having kids so young?
I do regret the choices I made but at the same time, I can't imagine my life without them. I had a great support system!
Would you change anything?
I would change Jon's behavior and maybe the Autism, but not sure.
~Sam <3
I met my (at the time) boyfriend when I was a freshmen in High school. We started having sex WAY too early in our relationship. He was already my world though. A few months into our relationship I ended up getting pregnant. First person I told was my Twin Maci who you will hear about more. My parents were always on the road for work so it was pretty much me and Maci alone in the house. I emailed both my Mom and Dad telling them that me and my boyfriend Jon were pregnant. I was only 14 years old. Apparently they never got the email. 4 months later they came home and here I was sticking out. They asked how I got so fat and I said what do you mean fat? It's my baby bump.They were surprised and I told them to look in there email and there was proof I told them. My Mom scheduled an apt and got me checked out. They didn't really care I was pregnant. She was born a happy healthy baby. 7lbs 5 oz, 21inches long on Dec 9, 2006. I was 15. I didn't know ANYTHING about babies. When she was 6 months she got a shot. This shot was the cause of her Autism. She is now 4.
Parker & Bella:
Me and Jon are still together at this time. We are back t having sex and he is living at my house. One night we were again careless. 6 weeks later I found out that I'm pregnant. I was 15. Jon freaked out a little bit but he promised to stay by my side. 3 days later he proposed to me. The days after we told our parents we were pregnant again. Both our parents flipped then my mom noticed my pretty pretty ring. We then announced we were engaged. The 4 calmed down a bit. about a weeks later I had a sonogram and found out it was twins! First thing we said was Autistic & Twins, oh fuck! They were born Mar 12. I was 16, having a C-Section and getting my tubes tied. Parker was 6lbs 2 oz and 19 inches. Bella (not Isabella, just Bella) was 6lbs 3 oz and 17 inches. They are now 3.
Jacqilin:
Me and Jon were busy planning our wedding for a week after my 18th birthday, while working and raising 3 kids. Maci found a great guy who she is still with to this day. When she was 17 she ended up getting pregnant to this guy. She was going to abort the baby. I begged her not to saying that I would take care of the baby. She agreed. She had Jacqi on March 7. Jacqilin was 7 and a half lbs and 23 inches. We were 18. Jacqi is 1 now.
Jon & I:
Me and Jon ended up getting married on Apr 12. He started to get abusive. One day it got so bad that after a week or 2 I called the cops. We got a divorce and he has life in prison. Being a single Mom of 4 is extremely rough.
My Life Now:
I'm 19 with 4 kids. Maci and D'shawn often see Jaqi. I'm going to Minnesota State University Moorhead for Sociology. I often go skiing, shopping, go to Vallyfair, the Zoo, playing tennis and snowboarding with the kids or friends.
What is like taking care of a kid with autism?
It is definitely hard. I have 5 people that come to my house and work with her. When Jon and I bought our house we redid it so that she couldn't climb. She has a play room to herself that is safe for her. She goes to speech therapy because she is non-verbal. My family is on a high fat diet to help her seziurs.
How did the shot cause her autism?
It was a mercury shot. I don't know the science behind it but the kids will never get all there shots now.
Do you regret having kids so young?
I do regret the choices I made but at the same time, I can't imagine my life without them. I had a great support system!
Would you change anything?
I would change Jon's behavior and maybe the Autism, but not sure.
~Sam <3